Couples check-in questions: a 5-minute weekly routine
Short answer
Once a week, each partner rates three things from 1 to 5 (how connected you felt, how stressful your week was, how appreciated you felt) and answers three prompts: one thing you appreciated about your partner, one thing you'd love more of, and anything on your mind. Compare answers side by side and talk about the biggest gap first.
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The weekly check-in
Rate 1-5:
- How connected did you feel to me this week?
- How stressful was your week?
- How appreciated did you feel?
Finish the sentence:
- One thing I appreciated about you this week...
- One thing I'd love more of...
- Something on my mind...Good to know
Same day each week, phones away, 5 to 15 minutes.
Start with appreciation.
A check-in is not therapy; if you feel unsafe, in the US call or text 1-800-799-7233.
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from $3.99/monthTwinelark runs this check-in on both your phones: each fills it in, shares a link, and you see both answers side by side with gentle talking points. Free; Plus adds a new pack every month.
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How often?
Weekly works for most couples; monthly for a longer review.
What if we disagree?
Pick one gap to talk about; save the rest for next week.